Divorce Nation

When you and your spouse are continually fighting and your bad days are more than your good ones, these are usually the ample cautions people look back on in hindsight and realize these were the warning signs.  During these times, you are going through major emotional distress and nothing seems to go right.  Preventing a divorce for the duration of this period seems unattainable, but salvation is possible.

When you step back from your immediate situation and think of your life on a bigger scale, you remember all of the things that made you get married in the first place.  You fell in love with your spouse for all of their unique qualities, and the reassurance that you will have someone to experience life’s pleasures and hardships with.

Thinking rationally in raw emotional exchanges is a hard thing to do, but whenever you feel like a battle is about to be waged, step back and think about things on a grander scale.  When couples argue and they are done arguing, they have usually forgotten what the fight was about in the first place.  Letting go of the petty things is a huge step to saving a marriage.

In order to prevent a chaotic relationship from emerging, step away from anger.  When we are angry we say irrational things and we forget our sense of compassion.  When we are angry with our spouse, we have to remember that we love this individual and instead of fighting, you will voice your issues in a civilized manner.

Mutual respect and love are the ingredients for a lasting marriage.  When you love your spouse and remember your love in difficult situations, you will also remember to put their feelings first.  In doing so, you are showing a respect for their feelings, you do not want to hurt them, thus preventing arguments that can be disastrous.

In order to nurture a loving relationship, both parties have to communicate openly and not be embarrassed to share their thoughts and feelings.  In order to achieve ‘marital bliss’, both parties have to surrender their preconceived notions of ego because when you are together all boundaries need to be erased.

Reigning in your ego and not allowing your relationship to become a battlefield of the egos will prevent a lot of unnecessary conflict.  Just like you do not like your feelings hurt, neither does your partner.  Humans instinctively sense the need to protect themselves if they feel they are under attack.  Do not put your partner in a position to make them feel they have to emotionally protect themselves.  Once you realize the place of your ego your relationship will benefit greatly.