Divorce Nation

Going through the process of a divorce without children is a major stress factor in a person’s life.  Going through a divorce when there is a child/ren involved increases the stress factor ten fold.  If you have been a mother full time since having children, thinking about reentering the workforce to survive can be an overwhelming thought.  Even if you are a working mom, the thought of carrying the weight of your child’s responsibility alone is heart wrenching.  It is hard enough parenting when both parents are involved, but what will you do when situations arise that need to be handled and you are alone? 

Your First Crucial Step

If you are a fan of procrastination, this must immediately stop.  Do not wait to get a lawyer.  You have to research a lawyer that you will be content with, a lawyer who will fight for the long term security of you and your children.  The hard work begins the minute you decide to get a divorce by finding the right lawyer for you.  Make an appointment for your free consultation and go prepared with all of the questions you need answered immediately.

Become [in part] your own Lawyer

Once you have secured a lawyer that fits your needs and budget, you need to learn how to become your own lawyer.  You can do this by researching divorce guidelines and strategies through the internet to keep yourself posted and ahead of your spouse on your divorce case.  You need to figure out the technicalities of your assets through obtaining all of your records.  Records that include bank statements, deeds, basically anything you ever had a record of, you need to get your hands on.  You have to keep track of your conversations with your spouse. Any behavior on behalf of your spouse that may give you an upper hand in your court case needs to be carefully documented.  You must be detailed and thorough with your loggings.  If you are organized and prepared, it makes you look better in front of the court.  An added bonus of keeping track of your daily interactions with your husband is that you will not be prone to saying things irrationally.  You will remain level headed.

Your number one asset: Your kids.

Putting your children first has become your way of life since becoming a mother.

Loosing your kids to their father, or not being able to see them everyday is a devastating thought for you. Being unable to see your kids’ everyday is also a very realistic scenario you have to face.  More and more divorce settlements include sharing parental responsibility by 50%.  There alternatives you can come to, but you have to arm yourself and the only way you can do this is by educating yourself on how to protect your family, integrity and judgment.  Do not underestimate the power you can find within yourself.